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Kissing is a normal and healthy way to show affection, yet you don't want to be too forward or just go around kissing any guy you see! Your first kiss should be special. Kissing can be absolutely awesome or incredibility gross depending on how you feel about a guy. If it is uncomfortable, your body and mind are telling you something. Don't force a feeling that isn't there! Kissing is unique to your own self and style which you will grow more comfortable with as you gain experience. |
There are many techniques you can study and try to use in preparation for your first time kiss, yet in the moment all those notes will probably go out the window, leaving only your instincts in tact. Naturally, you will be able to tell if a guy wants to kiss you. If the guy is already a steady boyfriend, he will give you hugs, want to hold your hand, and cuddle all the time. These actions are an outward sign he is getting up the nerve to kiss you. If you have decided you want to kiss him as well, go ahead and hold his hand, cuddle a little closer, stroke his cheek and look into his eyes. If you don't break out in an uncontrolled fit of laughter while looking into his eyes, lean in a little bit and see where it takes you.
When kissing someone for the first time, it is not a great idea if you've just eaten loads of food with garlic or onions or haven't brushed your teeth for a long time. Keep around some strong mints, offer them to your guy as well. The last thing you want is a disgusting taste in your mouth. You will have plenty of time later in life, in a committed relationship, to deal with morning breath or garlic breath! The first few kisses should be fresh and fun!
Keep in mind if you have a cold sore, or if he has a cold sore it is not really a great time to kiss. If you get cold sores, it doesn't mean you can't ever kiss, you just have to be honest about it and not engage in kissing when you could pass the virus to another person! Wait until they subside. Make sure that there's nothing that may scare the guy away once the romance starts.
A first kiss doesn't have to be passionate and deep. Lightly brushing your lips together and closed mouth kissing techniques are acceptable. Just don't purse your lips together so they are hard and ridged. This puts out the message you don't want to kiss at all. On that note, if you don't want to kiss, don't! Putting yourself in uncomfortable situations regarding your expressions of affection will only make opening up to relationships harder. And if his reaction is one of anger or indifference, he is just not that into you! Don't push it.
Honesty is a good rule to follow and your instincts will kick in and let you know whether you really want the kiss or not. You shouldn't memorize any instructions for the kiss, let it all come to you naturally. If you do decide to both kiss and for whatever reason something goes wrong during the kiss, don't go on and on about the kiss if it doesn't work out. People can remain friends after an awkward kiss, or it could be the time just wasn't right and a fabulous kiss is just around the corner! Once you've decided you want to kiss your guy and you've tried it and like it, play around with different techniques. There will be some amusing times, of course. No one is perfect. You may bump heads or some of your kisses could be weird and sloppy. Keep practicing! Flirting is awesome. Eye contact is essential, yet close your eyes when actually kissing! Keeping your eyes open is sort of creepy.
Play with his hair or lightly touch his ears or cheek while kissing. Looking a little bit coy is acceptable as well. Snuggle into the nook of his neck in between kisses. Guys like to feel in charge and it doesn't mean he actually is, but biologically we are designed to fit into roles. Most likely you will do this naturally, but if it doesn't come naturally try biting your lip a little (not hard) and looking up into his eyes. This will make you seem very innocent and he will feel very masculine.
After a kiss a hug or caress is appropriate. Don't start babbling, even though you may want to talk because you may be nervous or excited. Have a moment of silence to take in the feelings of the kiss. You may start kissing again, or if this is the end of a date, you may be saying goodnight. Pause as you open your front door and look over your shoulder making eye contact. Eye contact is especially important after a kiss and helps the sparks fly!
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